Alpha tweeted this fable about "the good Christian girl". It sounds eerily familiar, especially the voices of those knowing ones.
To quote Mr TDH: "There must be a better way. Right now it's all hit-and-miss." His contention is that the church isn't very helpful, and largely leaves it to chance: if you're lucky, you meet someone, he likes you, you like him, you date, you get married. If you're unlucky, you don't meet anyone; or you meet someone, you like him, he doesn't like you, and nothing comes of it.
I don't know how the church could help in this area, though, and neither does Mr TDH. Nobody seems to have the answers. All the "answers" given by those knowing ones are the wrong answers. I know, because I've heard a lot of them!